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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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Dear Carri,

I think the fastest way for you to get money is to sell some of your things.

Then buy some cheap staple foods, like rice, beans and cans. Bread too, or flour if you can bake. I hope you still have some means to cook?

Very cheap meals:

http://couponing.about.com/od/groceryzone/a/lowcostmeals.htm

http://vegetarian.about.com/od/veggieburgerrecipes/Vegetarian_Veggie_Burger_Recipes.htm

And a link to the Agriculture Department: Scroll down the page to the bottom and search recipes that cost a few cents a portion (write the price you want):

http://couponing.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ&sdn=couponing&cdn=money&tm=59&gps=68_1289_1088_431&f=20&tt=13&bt=0&bts=0&zu=http%3A//recipefinder.nal.usda.gov/index.php%3Fmode%3Ddisplay%26rec_id%3D282

Food (and other) help resources:

http://www.usda.gov/wps/portal/!ut/p/_s.7_0_A/7_0_1OB?navid=FOOD_ASSISTANCE&parentnav=FOOD_NUTRITION&navtype=RT

http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal

Please sell some of your stuff fast to get food in the house for your children and yourself.

Then save very much on water and electricity. Don't let those bills grow!

Stretch your food dollars so that you can pay off some of your bills...

Anything you can unsubscribe to? Cable tv? Cellular phone? Newspaper subscriptions?

My best wishes are with you,

Helene

P S You must sit down and think if you can manage to keep your house in the longer term. Could you try to find a place to live that is sustainable for you in the long run? Your children need a safe place to live, but not necessarily one that you can't afford. - Just trying to help...

 

 

 

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Brighan   on

To Be Beat or Not To Be Beaten: The Question of Recognizing and Escaping Domestic Abuse

 in response to Brighan...   

Must be awful to live with such people at your door step...

I recently live in the ME so I should be used for stuff, but some places in America seem far to tough for me...: - )!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to cherishme   on

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Dear Cherishme,

Whatever money you have every month (salary...) do use it to pay your rent first.

From the rest of the money, take four or five portions and put each in an envelope. That should be for food for each week of the month.

Whatever money is left, use it to pay off the utility bill. Save on electricity and water as much as you can - don't let those bills grow!

I am out of money this month, but perhaps next month I can send you some children's clothes, if you tell me their ages. Boys or girls? - I have three girls aged 9, 11 and 13 so if there is anything they don't need, I can send that. I do not have any means to buy anything new, though, so if you have boys, it will be a little bit hard.

Try to stretch your money as much as you can. Here are a few links to help you stretch your food dollars, so that you can spend less on food and use more of your money to pay off the bills:

http://couponing.about.com/od/groceryzone/a/lowcostmeals.htm

http://www.usda.gov/wps/portal/!ut/p/_s.7_0_A/7_0_1OB?navid=FOOD_ASSISTANCE&parentnav=FOOD_NUTRITION&navtype=RT

Best wishes,

Helene

 

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Brighan   on

To Be Beat or Not To Be Beaten: The Question of Recognizing and Escaping Domestic Abuse

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Am reading about the gangs... very interesting indeed... How did you go about interviewing that g a n g s t e r ?! (Curious!!!)

: - )

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Guidance   on

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I am also appalled to see how insufficient the social security is in your country - I am originally Swedish and now live in Israel, and I have never seen anything of the like as I see over there... You virtullay work and pay taxes all your life - and when you once get old or disabled, there is so little help from the authorities...

I am sorry I do not know where you should turn, but you have my greatest sympathy!!!

Here in Israel it is fairly usual that older parents live in a room in their children's house and share their utilities. Sometimes that is the most convenient option available, but they still have compensation from the state on which it is fairly possible to live.

Best regards,

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Brighan   on

To Be Beat or Not To Be Beaten: The Question of Recognizing and Escaping Domestic Abuse

What a very helpful home page you have made!!!

I will read it little by little, as there are so many links. Thank you! It looks it will be interesting!

The article about domestic abuse is very to the point. I got out of an abusive relationship after twenty years, and I am now a free and strong woman. I didn't only get my life back, I also got myself back: - ) by leaving him! It was very dangerous at times, but I had good help of both authorities and reliable friends and the escapes (two) were made in complete secret. We were far away and well hidden in a shelter when he realized we were gone. The shelter was like a piece of heaven at the time. It was exactly what I needed. As I live in Israel, I and my children could stay for as long as it took to get a new home and a new job and relocate. But I chose to go home, the police removed my husband from the home and he was forbidden to enter the village for many months. He also got five different punishments by the judge in the criminal court, among them forced therapy. He didn't change much though. He now uses his new woman in the same ways as he did with me. He is only "nice" as long as he gets what he wants and when it is benificial to him. I feel sorry for her being so misled, but at least, I am rid of him.

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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If you know anybody with a post office box, then that would do to, I persume.

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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 in response to darkangel...   

I fully understand. If you don't want to give out your address, could I send the package to your children's school, your church or somewhere else, where it is convenient for you to pick it up? The parcel is ready to go and any address will do.

I do not have money to put in a PayPal account. The things I'll send are things that I already have at home and that my daughters have outgrown. The clothes are in good shape, because they didn't wear them more than a few times.

If you can give me any suitable address, then please do so. If you like, you can check with your church or school first, if it is ok with them to give their address. Please write back when you have decided what to do. I'm not in a hurry. Do it in any way you are comfortable with.

Best regards,

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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Please, give me your address. I'll try to post that package tomorrow!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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I can help you with clothes for the girls, I'll go and do that right now! It will take about four weeks until you get them, because I can't afford to send them to the U S from Israel, where I live, by air mail.

Start cooking cheaply today, so that your food lasts longer.

If your children are all well taken care of, then perhaps you should begin to look for a job as soon as possible, to help you keep your house and to improve your situation.

Best wishes!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel  

I'll keep my fingers crossed too for you!!!

It would be so much easier for you, and you could find the money to pay the rent more easily.

Also keep looking around!!! There may be more than one opportunity out there...

I'm glad your husband helps with what he can: - ) Well done!!!

Best wishes to you!!!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel  

I understand it is hard for you! You have my greatest sympathy!

I wonder if there is any way you could either move closer to your work or get a work that is closer to home? Perhaps you have tried that already? - It is very hard that you have to pay so much for transportation to and from work. Is it possible you could fix it some way?

If you live mainly on one income, then your husband can perhaps help you to save money at home... go shopping and looking for the best prices, cook at home, you know what I mean...

Big hug to you - a n d your dog: - )!

I hope you will find a way.

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to darkangel   on

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Dear darkangel,

I'll be happy to help you with some clothes and school supplies next month, when I get my salary next time!

For this month, I have just enough money to make it to the months end...

I do not afford to send parcels by air mail to the U S as I live in Israel, but I can send it by shipping. It takes four weeks. So it would take about 8 weeks for you until any package can reach you. Is that ok with you?

What are the ages of your children, boys or girls?

Let me know, and I will see what I can do. Maybe I can fix it faster, if I have things at home that will do or if my friends can help me.

Best wishes,

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Amanda121905   on

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 in response to Amanda121905...   

You're welcome! Please do! - These links and online resources have helped me, personally, very much!

Especially the first link, from msn, is very very helpful and useful! You will probably just sit and say like I did, "That's right, that's so!", while reading it! It is exactly on the spot...

The other things are helpful too, once you have read and understood the first link: - )

Good luck to you and best wishes!!!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to saranmobile   on

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Is it possible that you can let a part of your house for rent to get an extra income? That has to be done ASAP.

Is there any way you can get an extra job fast? Obviously anything will do at the moment, so don't be picky. Just don't let the situation escalate without doing anything about it!

If things are really bad, can you go and live with relatives for some time, while you sell your house and try to find something that is within you means?

Just a few thougths,

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Amanda121905   on

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I am so happy for you: - )))!!!!!

Well done!!!!!

If you like, you can go to my blog. Yesterday I posted a few helpful links there. They may help you so this does not happen again: - )!!!

Very best wishes to you,

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel  

Money Saving Tips - Making Wise Choices

The very best introduction to the subject is this recently published article on msn. Read and be warned!

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/SavingandDebt/LearnToBudget/7SurefireWaysToStayPoor.aspx

For resources on frugal living, please visit:

http://frugalliving.about.com/

http://www.stretcher.com/money/index.cfm

http://www.livingonadime.com/index.html

These resources will be enough for you to get a flying start, if that is what you wish: - )!

Now down to the daily basics, the money saving tips that I have found helpful and try to practise every day:

a. I generally use M U C H less meat and poultry than before. I cook minced meat and chicken and freeze them in 1 cup portions, enough for one meal. It is very handy to throw in a vegetable stew or a gratin.

In stead of fresh or frozen fish, I now use canned tuna. One can is enough to make a big bowl of tuna salad AND a giant tuna- and potato-gratin!

b. I have increased the amount of vegetables I serve at meals, as side dishes, as these are relatively cheap where I live. We also have two or three mainly vegetarian meals a week. If canned vegetables are cheaper than fresh produce, we use the canned alternative!

c. For sandwich toppings, we have almost entirely gone from cheese and cold meat to sliced tomatoes or cucumbers with parsley! If you want to use cheese or cold meat, put them in a salad and serve on top of bread. It makes it go much farther! Some rice or cubed boiled potatoes in your chicken- or tuna-salad will make it go even farther!

d. Make your weekly/bi-weekly menu from items that are on sale in your low-price store!

e. Use what you have at home.

f. Buy only exactly what you need to get by the next one or two weeks! If you are short on money, don't fill your cupboards with food, even if it is on sale! If your child gets ill at night, 35 tuna cans in your cupboard will not help you, but cash in your pocket will!!!

g. Mix more expensive food with cheaper food items, to go farther! Make casseroles, gratins, patties, salads, stews and the like.

h. Change the ingredients in the recipe to cheaper ones. In stead of sausages, you can use canned meat. In stead of hamburgers, make vegetable croquettes. In stead of sending fruit in the brown lunch bag, put in a carrot. In stead of whole meat, use minced meat...

i. Choose food that gives a lot of taste for little money. When you live frugally for a prolonged period of time, it is very important that the food is not only cheap but also tasty! Use garlic, chili pepper, onions, leeks, bell peppers, cabbage, cans, anchoves, tuna, sardines, carrots, cottage cheese, herbs, parsley, dill - and don't forget the spices!!!

j. Take care to make nicer food with simpler ingredients. Try potato-puffs (deep fried balls of potato mash rolled in breadcrumbs) in stead of the usual French fries. Put meatballs and vegetables on scewers over the bowl of pasta. Decorate sandwiches and food nicely, before serving!

k. An easy and cheap way to create variation in your menu, especially when it is based on simple ingredients, is to use different vegetables as side dishes, use various dips and sauces, use a wide variety of spices and herbs, use various cans (when they are on sale), to cook the food with various methods and in various containers (ovensafe pan, oven plastic bags, aluminium foil packages, microwave pot, individual ovensafe pans - one for each portion) and to serve the food in different ways (buffet, sit-down dinner, wraps, TV-dinner, picnic, on the balcony, in the dining room, on the lawn) and with different sorts of bread or other dishes to go along with it! - And don't forget breakfast on the bed: - )!!! - For variation, and to make a meal more filling, serve various entrees before the main dish. It could be as simple as three small sandwiches to fill you up so that you can save a little on the fish or meat... A light meal can also be completed with a dessert.

l. Portion out the main dish on plates for each family member. Let them serve themselves of side dishes and starches. - Also freeze, for one meal at the time, any food that can be frozen, including vegetables and milk! Store dry food away from easily accessible places. Don't fill the refrigerater and expect it to stay full (especially if you have teen-age children at home)! Divide the food in plastic boxes and freeze away from the immediate grab-and-go of your children. That goes for leftovers too! - Also portion out shampoo, by pouring some in an empty bottle and mix it with some water. Put away the original bottle until it is time to refill.

m. Serve water with meals. Use the milk for the cerals. Eat fruit in stead of drinking juice. Skip all sodas except for special occasions.

n. Put up a clothes line in your bathroom, over the tub, and let each family member dry his towel on it after showering. At least in my family, this has saved us lots of washing! From being used to have three full loads of washing every day, we now have one machine load every two or three days! - We save water, electricity, detergent - and time!

o. Gather all your discarded clothes and use some time to cut them into rags. Put them where you are likely to use them, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the garage, in your shoe-cupboard. It saves time and paper towels!

p. Save all used school supplies, like the ends of pencils, erasers, scissors, glue and the like in an easily accessible box in the kitchen, near the phone or in the children's room. Then you will never have to look for a pen again. And you don't have to buy any new ones.

q. Never throw away any food. Make Japanese lunch boxes, so called Bento boxes. These have many small boxes inside a bigger one, so that it is easy to put many small leftovers together and add a few veggies or a home-made Japanese rice ball with filling (another use for leftovers)! The whole idea of Bento is to use many different things in one meal and to make the food look beautiful!

r. Save on cooking gas by using the micro. It usually takes much less time too. To save yourself from sticky pots, cook rice in the microwave oven (in a glass casserole for microwave use) - the result becomes perfect every time, you don't have to guard it nor stir it, and the pot comes out... clean!

s. This is a provocative suggestion, but I still stick with it! It saves time, water and soap... and your nerves as well. Use paper plates and cups for meals, especially if you are tired (after supper) or don't have time to clean up directly after the meal (going to work after breakfast). If it can make you happy, use disposable ovensafe aluminium pans or plastic bags for oven use! Bake your food in aluminium foil to save on cleaning!

t. Bake your own bread. Now, you tell me, you don't have the time nor the energy for that! Neither had I for many years. Then I learned this on the internet!!! It is so simple you can make it in your sleep (but please don't)!

First of all, keep your food processor on the counter top at all times. Use it to mix the dough. Don't for any reason mix it by hand, you will want this to be so simple and effortless that you can make it every day!!! Keep it simple!!!

As soon as the dough is mixed, put the bowl (if it is microwave safe) in the microwave oven. Put the heat on just below defrost. Put the timer to one minute. Open and see if the dough has risen enough. If not, give it another half minute.

Take out the dough and put it on the counter top, knead it quickly and cut it in parts. (Dough made on one kg of flour will make 8-16 pieces.)

Put the buns on a greased baking tray. The dough does not need to rise a second time, unless the dough is very heavy (like if you use rye).

Bake buns in 225 degrees Celsius (450 degrees F) for about 10 minutes or until golden and feel dry when you knock on them.

u. Don't buy anything, if you can get it for free (without stealing, lying or cheating)! See if you can exchange favours, home repairs, cooked meals, baby sitting, play dates, car pooling, bulk purchases with your firends or relatives or colleagues. The things that you don't need anymore may come in handy to someone else. The same goes for their discarded things. This goes for clothes, toys, utensils, books, garden tools, magazines, newspapers...

v. Read the newspaper in the coffee room at work (during your brake!) or at the library.

w. Read the newspaper, your favourite magazines, comics, reviews etc online. Use everything that is free on the internet: games, music, movies and TV series, online crossword puzzles, logic games, quizzes, jigsaw puzzles, hobby sites and forums, DIY advice and online cookbooks. Once you have paid the monthly bill for the internet, you will have a cornucopia of entertainment and information at home, 24/7.

x. The money that you save, use it wisely. Save some but spend on things that are vital to you and your family, like healt insurance, put aside an emertgency fund. Alot a monthly sum of money per person in the household for entertainment purposes to spend individually. Decide what is to be included in this sum, for example purchases of clothes, make up, magazines, eating out and so on. If you want to be frugal for a prolonged period of time, you will need some relaxation. The difference between a frugal person and one who isn't, is that the frugal person decides what is truly valuable and important for himself and focuses his spending on that, while another person is less intentional with his money and easily becomes a victim of what others tell him to do with his money (advertisements, peer pressure, a wish to be "like everybody else"). A frugal person gets good value for the money he spends, because he chooses to spend his money on what truly makes him happy. - As for me, I like to go to the mall once in a while, have a Chinese meal and read a book while I eat it. That is my way to rest. I could also take a walk by the sea or in the market, buy some sunflower seeds and sit at the sea and eat them. I can have both comfort and convenience at home!!! But sometimes I like the change of air...

y. Use a card for your mobile phone in stead of an open account. It will make you think twice before you make a call and make sure you only make the ones that are really necessary.

z. Make a budget. Review it every month and make necessary changes as your situation changes. Be flexible but clear about where to put your money. It is absolutley vital that the most important bills, like rent, get paid first!!! Use the envelope system to make sure that money is enough throughout all the month!!!

http://frugalliving.about.com/od/moneymanagement/ht/Envelope_System.htm

 

 

 

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Swedish ed. living in Israel   in reply to Bri2987   on

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Big hug to you!

And what a nice smile I get: - ) The same to you!

Be strong!

Helene

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Swedish ed. living in Israel  

The 4 steps to a better life.

Making a better life for yourself, no matter what your problem is, starts with these four steps:

1. Get real about the situation.

2. Focus on the important things.

3. Do what is necessary/possible.

4. Be grateful.

 

1. Get real about the situation.

For twenty years I lived in a marriage, which in my imagination was the definition of who I was. In reality, it was an abusive relationship. It took me twenty years to admit it, although on the very Wedding Day I thought "Now, my troubles begin."

It ended with an attempt of murder. Then, and only then, I chose to see the reality of my case. Suddenly, I was not helpless anymore, but I took back my life in my own hands. My husband was drawn to criminal court and got five different sorts of punishments, including forced treatment and therapy. I immediately filed for divorce and, after a year, I got it.

That was two years ago from now. Lots of things have changed. But first I had to change myself.

With very little income, the sole responsibility of the children, a full household to run, and a house that was in dire need of extensive repairs, with everything missing (after twenty years of constant neglect of my husband), I had no more room for fuzzy thinking, whether romantic, optimistic or pessimistic. I simply had to get real.

Did that hurt!

I had lived in a cocoon that I had made for myself for twenty years. And there I was, suddenly, thrown out in the real world.

Was that a shock or a relief?

I had to learn everyting anew. How to handle money. How to pay bills. How to do bank errands.

How to make home repairs.

And how to make do with the very little money that we had.

On top of it I got very ill, spent three weeks in hospital and months in convalecense, half of my monthly income would go to transportation to doctors and medicines.

There was a war that brought the country to a standstill for a month, with added stress to our whole life situation, especially for the children.

But my worst concern and nightmare was that I did not trust myself to make wise choices about people. How could I know a jerk from a good boy? How could I know the person in front of me?

The first year as a divorcee, I spent reading, and during this time I found my way back to my original basic values and believes, I found my own self, that had been buried for so long, I began to trust myself and my own judgment again and I made friends with myself...

I got a clear sense of what mattered to me. And I started to implement my values and beliefs in my own life. I began living the real life in a way that I was comfortable with.

 

2. Focus on the important things.

During the first year after the assault, which caused me to leave and divorce my husband, I could not sleep. I got treatment for Post Traumatic Syndrome (PTSD). The future didn't even seem to exist, it was a complete blur, while all my energy was pointed towards physical survival and avoidance of hurt. My husband still lived in the neighbourhood and I could have run into him at any time.

Motivation changed over time. Later I had a compelling need to understand everything, how it could have happened, why he had done it and so on. I kept reading until I realized that my husband was an abuser. They abuse because they want control over you. Period. There is nothing more to understand or to explain. The sum of violence is constant, if it decreases in one area, it increases in another. The only way you can help yourself is to leave, in as safe a way as possible!

I took refuge, a couple of times, especially before his criminal courts, in a women's shelter, once without and the second time with my children. It was a very good experience. Like heaven to a tired soul and battered body. Only kind words and support. Safety and security. A good night's sleep. Food on the table and plenty of it! And activities for the children to ease their minds. Staff available for a talk or a cry at any hour. And all the necessary support from professionals: social workers, lawyers, you name it.

Another big issue was money. He spent six months punishing me economically, before the matter was settled in court, not paying any child support. On 2,000 Israeli sheqels (560 USD) a month, I had to run a household of five. And I did it.

There was a time when managing my anger and hatred for him was the most important issue, or it would have eaten me up completely. There was no way to forgive. So I wrote a letter and told him exactly how his abuse had affected me. He came and cried and apologized. Fine with me. But I will have no more of it!

When the anger had subsided - it went on and off like a tide wave according to what happened in his life - the injustice in it all was the important issue. When he suddenly and very soon after the divorce remarried, I thougth it was the depth of injustice. It took me many months to realize, that I had gotten all the worldy justice there is to be had, and I had to be satisfied with that. It was now time for me to begin to live my own life.

The first thing I had to take care of was the house that was in dire need of reparations and new expensive basic equipment, like a water heater, and numerous smaller repairs and purchases. It took me two years to get my home back to a normal standard of living, due to his longlasting neglect of the house. With very little money to spend every month, I had to save for months on end to buy the most basic utensils for the house. But I did it. And as I look around today, my home still has the furniture I married with twenty years ago, but my home is orderly and nice, comfortable and not missing anything. Finally.

My friends were a great help to me during all this time. They brought me to and from the house when I was too afraid to go out (remember the PTSD). They took me and my children (I have no car) for an excursion on the day my exhusband remarried, and so we got through that day...

The children so, when I was too tired to be the best of mothers, my friends were always there to help out, to take the children, to help with chores, to lend money, to hear me vent... From the first day of the divorce, I promised my children to stay with them. When their father got married again, I promised them their lives would run like normally, anyway. And I fulfilled my promises to them.

Two years after the divorce, I finally find myself ready to really and truly enjoy my life and my children!!! They are a treasure that I savour every day!!! We had a nice stay-cation this holiday. We made a superb holiday at home: - ) We made restaurant food at home, ate on paper plates so we didn't have to do the dishes, went to cinema and swimming (it almost killed my budget, but it was worth it for once for the sake of the experience and memories: - ) and made a table full of games for them to play while at home.

What is important changes over time. You have to assess your situation and see what is the most important issues for you at the moment and then change your priorities as your situation changes (hopefully for the better)!

Right now, the blurred future that I could not even imagine three years ago, has just arrived. I am full of realistic and useful plans for the present and the future, to save for retirement, to have an emergency fund, and I do believe that in a few years' time I will be there!

 

3. Do what is necessary/possible.

Often, when we are in a difficult situation, we feel we have no alternatives. We think in circles and ruminate about the same problems over and over again, without ever finding a solution to them.

I say, write down your options on a paper, note the pros and cons with each alternative, straighten your thinking and do the sums, then act upon the best alternative.

Nothing will change if you don't do it!

Make an educated guess and jump!

It may not be nice. It may not be fun. It may be painstaking at first. But to get a change about, you'll have to start doing things differently.

What you did in the past did not work. The things you are used for were the very things that brought the problem about in the first place. Stop doing it and choose a new direction!

Make attainable goals. Do not say: "I will do that when I win on the lotto." Say: "I will do what I can today, and I will do what I can tomorrow and every day until the situation is rectified and I am in a better place than I am in today!"

Don't cry for things you can't obtain. Don't reach for goals that you can't attain. Do what you can today.

Assess your situation and find the ways that are possible. Then do them.

 

4. Be grateful.

Many problems occur in our lives when we are not grateful for what we have. So many things will become easier on your mind if you choose to be thankful for what you have.

Do not put up with injustices and incorrectness. Change what is within your power to change. Then leave the rest. Know that you have done what is possible to do. Rest your mind and be grateful for the things that you do have.

 

If you choose to get real about your situation, focus on the important things, do what is necessary/possible and then be grateful, you will have a recipe for success and safety and tranquility in your life.

 

Helene

 

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One: Call your host and tell him the truth about your situation. Maybe he can wait a couple of days?

Two: Could you give back one car, and get to work (together) in the other one?

 

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